Whether you’ve been married for years or you’ve only been dating for a few months, every relationship is at risk for becoming dull and boring. We all have been guilty of getting used to a specific routine – waking up, going to work, coming home, eating dinner, getting ready for bed, and only going out on your days off. On those rare dates, we stick to what we know. We may take in a movie and eat out at a favorite restaurant.
In the beginning, it may seem quaint and comfortable, but after some time, it becomes all too predictable. The excitement of new love has faded away, and the spontaneity and romance that once was is nowhere to be found. There are definite ways to bring the passion back into your relationship, and it should become your main goal right now!
Break the Monotony
Even if you absolutely love lasagna, if you were forced to eat it every night, it wouldn’t take long before you would be completely sick of it. The same idea applies to your love life. Start to explore different places and activities for the two of you to share together.
Make a vow that you will never do the same thing on a date twice in a six month period. This agreement will force you to start getting creative about your recreational choices. This week might be laser tag, next week miniature golf, and the next could be horseback riding lessons. Think outside of the box and surprise yourselves with real variety. You’ll discover new things about each other – like the fact that your partner loves to fly fish!
“Couple Time” is Sacred
If you are married, designate a certain time of the month that the kids will get shipped off to the babysitter, even if it’s just for one night. Spending alone time together is important to keeping your union fresh and lively. Don’t forget that before you had children, you were each other’s favorite person to socialize with. Regain that closeness by being selfish with your “couple time”. Don’t let anything supersede the time you’ve set aside just for the two of you.
Perhaps you don’t have children yet, but the two of you have gotten caught up with life’s many distractions. Work can begin to get hectic, demanding more and more of your attention and time. Friends and family can become needy, pulling at you on all sides. There just doesn’t seem to be enough hours in the day. You absolutely must devote time to any relationship in order for it to grow and flourish. Just like a neglected houseplant, your relationship may seem okay for awhile, until one day you look up to find that it has withered and starved due to a lack of attention.
Time doesn’t have to be the enemy of your love connection. With time comes history, shared experiences, and a stronger bond. When you commit to making intimacy and adventure a number one priority between you and the object of your affection, there won’t be a mundane day to be found!